More Sugar, Less Spice

<body topmargin=0 leftmargin=0 marginheight=0 marginwidth=0> <table cellpadding=0 cellspacing=0 border=0><tr> <td valign="top" colspan=2 height=90 BGCOLOR="#000066" TEXT="#F7F7FF" bgproperties="fixed" background="1b9005a3.jpg"> <div> <FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#FFCC00" FACE="Arial" >Living Hope Christian Fellowship</FONT>     |     <A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Living Hope Christian Fellowship"><B>Home</B></A></div> <div> Back to  <A HREF="family.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="The Christian Home"><B>The Christian Home</B></A></div> <div> </div> </td> </tr><tr> <td valign="top" width=160 BGCOLOR="#000066" TEXT="#F7F7FF" bgproperties="fixed" background="32ac8043.jpg"> <div> <TABLE BORDER="0" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="0" WIDTH="135" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#000066" BORDERCOLORDARK="#FFCC00" FRAME="ABOVE" RULES="NONE" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#FFFFFF > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP BGCOLOR=#FFCC00 HEIGHT= 16 WIDTH="131"><div> <B>Articles:</B></div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <div> <A HREF="a_battle_for_values.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="A Battle For Your Values">A Battle For Values</A></div> <div> <B>Sugar and Spice</B></div> <bR> </td> <td valign="top" height=390 width="100%" BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000" bgproperties="fixed" background="32b00042egerdp.jpg"> <div> <I><B>More Sugar, Less Spice</B></I></div> <div> <TABLE BORDER="1" CELLPADDING="0" CELLSPACING="0" WIDTH="598" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#000066" BORDERCOLORDARK="#FFFFFF" FRAME="BELOW" RULES="ROWS" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 925 WIDTH="598"><div> <TABLE BORDER="1" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="0" WIDTH="154" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#000066" BORDERCOLORDARK="#000066" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="RIGHT" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#FFFFCC > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 281 ><NOBR><div> <IMG SRC="5d678e30.jpg" border=0 width="120" height="227" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <hr> <div> <A HREF="#reading" TITLE="More Sugar, Less Spice">For Further Reading</A></div> <bR> </NOBR></tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <div> <I>by Tammy Tkach</I></div> <hr> <bR> <div> A newspaper headline reads, "For These girls, No Tears, Just Fists." A 13-year-old girl, encouraged by her mother, and along with her mother and other women and girls, beat up a 12-year-old girl when the first girl's boyfriend kissed her on the cheek. They beat her so savagely she was left in a coma.</div> <bR> <div> Another group of girls participated in a hazing so brutal several girls were hospitalized with broken bones. The girls were merely expelled.</div> <bR> <div> The incidence of violence among girls has risen in the past few years. Boys still have the edge, but according to the Associated Press, arrest statistics show the ratio has increased from 10 to 1 to 4 to 1. More incidents occur without arrests.</div> <bR> <div> What's happening? Doesn't sugar and spice and everything nice still describe girls? Girls are starting to act more and more like boys. They have role models in the movies showing them the way: Lara Croft, the cyborg from Terminator 3, Trinity in The Matrix and the X-Men movies.</div> <bR> <div> Other factors contribute to violence among girls: less religious influence, more broken homes, fewer mothers at home during the day and a coarser, more violent society in general.</div> <bR> <div> Betsy Hart, the author of the above mentioned article states: "When the virtue of women as a group degenerates in a culture, it weakens the culture as a whole and it's a dangerous thing. In every successful society, women are the ultimate keepers of virtue. They are the civilizing influence on the men and the culture around them." Women have typically been the gentling factor of society.</div> <bR> <div> One of the definitions of gentle is "free from harshness, sternness or violence." Another is "considerate or kindly in disposition; amiable and tender."</div> <bR> <div> When one thinks of gentleness, a mother with her baby comes to mind. Women are supposed to be gentle, tender and kind. But as with most other moral virtues, being gentle isn't cool. It's better to stand up for yourself and fight back.</div> <bR> <div> Gentleness isn't mentioned a lot in the Bible, but the few verses in the Old Testament that use the word gentle (in the King James Version; other translations use various words with similar meanings) point to the gentleness of the Father. Second Corinthians 10:1 speaks of the gentleness of Christ. Galatians 5:23 says it is a fruit of the Spirit. God in the fullness of the Trinity is gentle.</div> <bR> <div> Even though 1 Peter 3:4 admonishes wives not to let their beauty come from their physical appearance, he seems to be speaking to all women. Our beauty "should be that of [our] inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight," (NIV). A gentle and quiet spirit is one who knows God, trusts him and lives in the security of his love.</div> <bR> <div> Gentleness toward others shows respect and consideration. It shows an understanding of the value of each person to God.</div> <bR> <div> Gentleness shouldn't be an old-fashioned virtue. As one of the fruits of the Spirit, it applies to every Christian-male or female. It should be taught to our daughters to help keep our society strong. It should be modeled for our sons and practiced in our daily lives.</div> <bR> <div> Gentleness is part of who Jesus is, and as he lives in us, our gentleness will be lived out for others to see and feel.</div> <bR> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP BGCOLOR=#BBBBBB HEIGHT= 20 WIDTH="598"><div> <B>For Further Reading</B><B> <A NAME="reading"><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="1x1.gif" HEIGHT="1" ALIGN="bottom" WIDTH="1" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" ></A></B></div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 822 WIDTH="598"><div> The following are some bibliographical references on this topic. They are provided as a service to you. However, as for any bibliography, we do not endorse nor necessarily agree with the contents of these works:</div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">"Do Violent Movies Make Violent Kids?" <I>The lancet</I>.9305 (2002): 502.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">"Shocking Entertainment: Responses to Violent Movies by J David Slocum." <I>Cineaste</I> 24.2/3 (1999): 93.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Anderson, Craig A. "Effects of Violent Movies and Trait Hostility on Hostile Feelings and Aggressive Thoughts." <I>Aggressive behavior</I> 23.3 (1997): 18.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Msftedit 5.41.15.1503;Babcock, Julia C., and Cheryl Siard. "Toward a Typology of Abusive Women: Differences between Partner-Only and Generally Violent Women in the Use of Violence." <I>Psychology of Women Quarterly</I> 27.2 (2003): 153-61.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">DeJean, Joan. "Early Modern Women - Violent Women and Violence against Women: Representing the "Strong" Woman in Early Modern France." <I>Signs</I> 29.1 (2003): 32.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Federal Trade Commission Washington DC. <I>Marketing Violent Entertainment to Children: A Twenty-One Month Follow-up Review of Industry Practices in the Motion Picture, Music Recording and Electronic Game Industries. A Report to Congress</I>. District of Columbia: Federal Trade Commission, 600 Pennsylvania Avenue, NW, Washington, DC 20580. Tel: 877-FTC-HELP (Toll Free); Web site: http://www.ftc.gov. For full text: http://www.ftc.gov/reports/violence/mvecrpt0206.pdf., 2002.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Filetti, Jean S. "From Lizzie Borden to Lorena Bobbitt: Violent Women and Gendered Justice." <I>Journal of American Studies</I> 35.3 (2001): 14.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Fitzroy, Lee. "Violent Women: Questions for Feminist Theory, Practice and Policy." <I>Violence & Abuse Abstracts</I> 8.1 (2002): 3-84.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Flowers, R. Barri. <I>Violent Women: Are They Catching up to Violent Men or Have They Surpassed Them?</I> California, 1987.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Girshick, Lori. "No Sugar, No Spice: Reflections on Research on Woman-to-Woman Sexual Violence." <I>Sage Family Studies Abstracts: Trends in Marriage, Family, and Society</I> 25.2 (2003).</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Grimes, T., E. Vernberg, and T. Cathers. "Emotionally Disturbed Children's Reactions to Violent Media Segments." <I>J Health Commun</I> 2.3 (1997): 157-68.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Hill, Annette. <I>Shocking Entertainment : Viewer Response to Violent Movies</I>. Luton, Bedfordshire, U.K.: University of Luton Press, 1997.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Horton, Stanley M. "Gentleness--Meekness." <I>Paraclete</I> 26 (1992): 23-27.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Huckle, P. L., and A. Thomas. "A Survey of 'Violent Women'." <I>Prison service journal</I>.115 (1998): 2.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Kelley, Robin. ""Yo' Mama's Disfunktional!"" <I>Witness</I> 81 (1998): 14-15.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Lechman, Judith C. <I>The Spirituality of Gentleness : Growing toward Christian Wholeness</I>. San Francisco: Harper & Row, 1989.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Maclachlan, Renton. "With Gentleness and Respect : The Implications for Christian Apologetics of Some Passages from 1 Peter." <I>Stimulus</I> 4 (1996): 30-33.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Newman, Judith. "Sugar & Spice." <I>The Ladies' home journal</I> 115.10 (1998): 144.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Radutzky, Michael, et al. <I>60 Minutes Who's to Blame?</I> videorecording. CBS News, New York, N.Y., 1999.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Sargent, James D., et al. "Adolescent Exposure to Extremely Violent Movies." <I>Journal of adolescent health : official publication of the Society for Adolescent Medicine</I> 31.6 (2002): 6.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Stone, David P., et al. <I>Media Rights and Responsibilities</I>. videorecording /. Films for the Humanities & Sciences, Princeton, N.J., 2002.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Torr, James D. <I>Violence in the Media</I>. Current Controversies. San Diego, CA: Greenhaven Press, 2001.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Weiler, Jeanne, and Columbia Univ. New York NY. Inst. for Urban and Minority Education. <I>An Overview of Research on Girls and Violence. Choices Briefs, Number 1</I>. New York, 1999.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.png" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Weizmann, Henelius, et al. "Violent Women, Blame Attribution, Crime, and Personality." <I>Psychopathology</I> 35.6 (2002): 355-61.</div> <bR> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <div> Copyright © 2003 Living Hope Christian Fellowship  -  All Rights Reserved</div> <bR> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>